Hearing the Heart of Others

People, essentially, communicate to express their needs or gratitude for those needs being met. But oftentimes, how we express our needs can take violent forms, especially when we are triggered or hurt from something someone has said or done. But underneath that shout or scream, lies a heart... a heart which is screaming in pain for it's need not being met. And it is not only a scream, it can be a tragic use of words which can seem hurtful to the other. But it has nothing to do with the other. It has all to do with the person being unskilled at expressing their need and request for that need to be met in a compassionate manner. Realizing this can unlock something within you and free you from hearing hurtful words to hearing the hurt from the unmet needs behind those words. This does not happen in a day but takes practice to see and hear the core of a person. But once you start seeing the world and others in this way, language cannot hurt or offend you. You are immune to harshness because you see the heart of the person behind that harshness. This unlocks a compassion in your heart and allows you to see and connect with the other's heart even when things are turbulent or not obvious. This allows you be be at peace within yourself even in chaotic or tragic expressions from the other. I hope you can develop this new set of ears and listen for needs rather than attacks. In doing so, you will be able to love the other regardless of how they are expressing themselves. Hope you are able to love and understand the people in your life. Not a quick fix or even easy to master, but practice does make perfect! Wishing you all the luck. 🤞